What...??? Did you actually think that I was going to go on to saying something condesending or tell you about an argument or vent to you about my husband? Nope, won't hear that from me. Chances are you won't ever hear me say something negitive about my husband on a social network or in public, ever! You will never see us fight, call each other nasty names or treat each other less than the way we should be treated. It's just not who we are, it's not the way I was brought up to act like a scorned wife to the world when something doesn't go my way. Lucky me that my husband knows how to treat a lady. He puts me on a pedestal and makes me feel like I am a princess everyday, which in turn makes me want to do just about anything for him. Think I'm kiddin, I'm not and that is exactly what I want my children to grow up seeing. We've been together 20 years and married for 14 of them and I still have the best time with him. Go ahead say that it's not reality to be like that all of the time, well of course we live in the same world as everyone else with up's and down's but it's how you deal with them that makes or breaks a couple.
Recently our little Sophie was laying with us in bed and she was looking at our wedding rings (we call them love rings over here) on our hands and says, "What if you guys got divorced, lots of people do you know." We said that she doesn't have to worry about that, that mommy and daddy love each other very much. We asked her where she heard that and she said it was from watching her shows. It got me to thinking how sad it is that marriage is portrayed like divorice is the norm and no big deal. I see this around me all the time.
I was a member of a group on facebook that I think was called Mommies or something like that and basically it was a place that mom's can get advice for kids and things they are going through and for the most part it is a good place for that. One day though a mom/wife posted about coming home to her stay-at-home husband and walking in on him smoking around the kids. She went on to saying how mad she was and how inconsiderate he was and went on and on with name calling etc... As I was reading the comments from others I was getting so annoyed at all the other moms out there that didn't see anything wrong with the whole thing. Granted, while all that may be true as far as smoking around the kids being horrible, I can't help but think that blasting your husband on a social network is probably not the best way of handling the situation. I think that if the tables were turned and he was doing that to her and she happened to read that, how hurt would you feel? I voiced my thoughts on her post and was told that it was a place of venting. Maybe so, but to me I could have found a dozen other ways to have handled that situation. Needless to say, I removed myself from that group because I didn't want to read that kind of stuff. Thinking to yourself that that was no big deal? Well to me it's just one more thing that I don't agree with so why be a part of it.
Then there are the commercials that show the husband being a bumbling fool or an idiot in the kitchen or with finances. Oh please, those drive me nuts!!! This type of thinking is so mainstream it makes me mad! Shouldn't we give respect to get respect?! You better believe that my daughters will grow up to respect themselves so that they will expect nothing less than to get respect from others and that includes boys. My son will know how to respect girls and know that chivalry isn't dead. I want them to know that just because something seems to be the norm, doesn't mean it is and it's the right way. Hey, if thinking this way is wrong, I don't want to be right!
Here is a beautiful verse about love:
Song of Solomon 3
1One night as I lay in
bed, I yearned for my lover.
I yearned for him, but he did not come.
2So I said to myself, “I
will get up and roam the city,
searching in all its streets and squares.
I will search for the one I love.”
So I searched everywhere but did not find him.
3The watchmen stopped me
as they made their rounds,
and I asked, “Have you seen the one I love?”
4Then scarcely had I left
them
when I found my love!
I caught and held him tightly,
then I brought him to my mother’s house,
into my mother’s bed, where I had been conceived.
5Promise me, O women of
Jerusalem,
by the gazelles and wild deer,
not to awaken love until the time is right.a
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